It is vital to wake up before your kids. Vital. Waking up before your kids makes a huge difference in your day, at least it does mine.
Before getting pregnant earlier this year I was in a great habit of getting up each morning with my husband. His alarm goes off at 4:30 and he’s out of the shower by 4:45, so that’s when I would get up.
Even in baby James’ bad sleeping periods that would give me at least 15-20 minutes to have some coffee and put my glasses on.
Why Wake Up Before Your Kids?
Waking up to a crying baby sucks. It’s not how I want to start my day. As that first trimester nausea kicked in though, you couldn’t get me out of bed for a million dollars. Ok, maybe a million dollars would’ve done it… but no one was offering.
So I slipped back into a bad habit of rolling over when Ryan got up and falling back to sleep. James is still an early riser, so on a good day that would mean I get to sleep in until 6 or 6:30.
I’ve realized though, that the extra hour of sleep really isn’t worth the rough morning of playing catch up.
“Sleeping in” means I start my day with a crying kid, get to drink my coffee with that wiggly boy in my lap trying to steal it from me, and ultimately end up turning on The Wiggles just to get a minute to brush my teeth. It leads to feelings of overwhelm which bring me back to my earlier struggle with PPD.
It’s not how I want to start the day.
What Can I Do About It?
So this morning, I got up with Ryan. I drank my coffee in peace and started a new book. And guess what? James isn’t even up yet and I’m already writing a blog post!
Now when he does wake up and start crying “mama! Baba! Babaaaaaa!” I can go into his room with a smile on my face instead of sleep boogies in my eyes.
The peace and quiet I’ve experienced in the last hour and a half is worth losing out on the sleep. Trust me, I understand that some seasons of life require you to sleep in and ignore this advice completely. I’ve been there for the last 16 weeks! First trimester, newborn phase, holidays/vacation, and schedule changes all change up my willingness to get up early. But when I do, my entire day runs much more smoothly.
The timing of this post is just hilarious. I wrote this on Monday morning and it is now Thursday mid day while James naps. I’ve gotten up early all week and had such peaceful mornings as a result. Well, this morning James was up at 4:45 absolutely wailing. I consoled him and tried to get him to go back to sleep, but it was obvious that he wasn’t going to sleep anywhere but in my arms. For a second I got really frustrated. UGH! Here goes my peaceful morning, I guess I have to sit here in a dark nursery holding my baby. Then I realized there really isn’t a much more peaceful way to start the day than with a sweet, sweaty, sleeping baby in your arms. I was SO happy I was able to adjust my attitude really quickly and I ended up rocking him for 45 more minutes as he happily drifted in and out of sleep. I know my days of rocking him are numbered so I’ll happily trade a morning by myself for one with him in my arms.